Qabbani and Civil Marriage
So we have all heard the Lebanese Mufti’s new fatwa about “legalizing” civil marriage. Quite a fiasco there…
Well for one, the Mufti has no respect from me personally after his endless scandal (that has yet to be resolved) stealing money from the Zakat and pampering himself and his sons (yes, remember last year’s fiasco, so much for straight, poise and religious authority to have the nerve show his face again on TV and actually criminalize people! pssh!). Now that we have the settled.
Ofcourse most politicians don’t share the same view (yes politicians, in Lebanon, a mufti, a pope, a politician, are mainly about … money and power).
Based on which I had a very interesting debate with a someone who seems to have taken the Qabbani’s words to heart very dearly and believed them, and here is my reply to civil marriage being “Haram”.
1. what is clearly haram and halal in Islam is things like pork and consuming alcohol. The marital status of someone is either sinner or married, a sin is sex outside of marriage, but everything that happens in a marriage is not sin. When two people decide to spend their lives together and commit it is a marriage and therefore not sin. Is it still sinful that the marriage happened under civil state? No. (more in 2)
2. The conditions that a married couple must meet to declare an Islamicly acknowledged marriage are as follows (i challenge Qabbani on this one):
- The presence of two witnesses and approval of the bride’s gaurdian
- Public announcement of the wedding
- The registering of the marital commitment in official courts/files/etc to reserve the rights of the couple in case of dispute.
[with a few formalities like the “mahr” and agreeing on living terms, etc..]Yeah, that’s pretty much it. It just happens that the official system to register to is religious, however, in Lebanon before the country the town’s mayor could’ve married you off and it was fine. In countries that follow Islamic Sharia in their constitution it happens that the personal statuses are registered in are Islamic. If it were a civil state (like.. perhaps, Lebanon?) it would’ve been registered in a civil court.
3. Therefore the presence and approval of Qabbani or any other religious figure is not so necessary, actually they have not much role in an islamic marital commitment anyway.
4. To those debating women’s rights as per the Islamic Shar’ia. There’s really very little difference that is to be mentioned between civilian and religious weddings, and a couple can choose to have their divorce, inheritance and other resolutions based on any laws (Islamic, Christian, Durzi) they may seem fit.
5. There’s even this very interesting video that kind nails alot more religion related point to the “fatwa itself”
6. A little something i found online today on the “I had a civil marriage” group on facebook that was worth sharing
Important points of similarities and difference in Civil and Religious marriages:
Religious // Civil Wedding
عزيزي المفتي : قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول: “لا يرمي رجلٌ رجلاً بالفسوق ولا يرميه بالكفر إلا ارتدت عليه إن لم يكن صاحبه كذلك”
El Nashra: الشيخ قبلان يطالب رؤساء الطوائف بتشكيل لجنة لبحث الزواج المدني ودرسه
Beirut Spring: The Significance of Hariri’s Civil Marriage Position
Hummus for Thoughts: Why the Mufti should shut up
AbirGhattas: Detailed Civil Marriage Law. Read it & Judge for Yourselves
AbirGhattas: زواج كمال جنبلاط مدني – سنة ١٩٤٨
SamanthaWasHere: Civil Marriage: Our Civil Right
Thaer Ghandour: خريطة طريق: عروسين إلى قبرص
Worried Lebanese: Three impulsive reactions to arguments “supporting” civil marriage legislation in Lebanon
Asharq Alawasat: مقبرة «الزواج المدني»
Walid Abboud surveys his facebook fans: هل أنتم مع الزواج المدني الاختياري? [Current Stats: 510 votes Yes, 104 votes No)
ElNashra: أبو كسم: الكنيسة ليست مع “العقد المدني” وأي زواج يعقد بشرط هو باطل
SkyNews Arabia: لبنان.. مطالب بتشريع الزواج المدني